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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a WOHM, single mom of two.  Any spouse who is not pulling their weight should be ashamed.  Either work earning money all day, or the house and kids better be ship-shape when the breadwinner comes home.  That includes dinner, laundry, and keeping the children engaged, entertained, and learning.

OP your DH is not pulling his weight.  He needs to step up.  [/quote]

If there were SAHMs here they'd be saying how hard it is to do ANYTHING other than take care of kids (I agree with you BTW).  And the bonbon brigade would be sympathizing.

So when a DH acts like this he needs to step up.  When a woman does, she's a hero doing "the most important job and no other."

Got it.[/quote]

OP:  our kids are GROWN.  I did say I thought it was valuable and I appreciated his contribution when we were RAISING our kids, even though there were times I would have loved to trade places.  There is NO higher purpose that he can pin staying at home for at this point.  He won't negotiate a change, and it has me up in arms, even though I asked for some financial help, which I think is reasonable at this point.[/quote]

Why didn't you bring this up with your husband, OP, when your youngest child entered high school, so your husband would have 4 years to plan what comes next for him?[/quote]

Why is it OP's responsibility to force her husband into contributing to his family?[/quote]

It's not but sometimes SAHPs are delusional that their time at home will never end, and gently bringing it up years in advance can be helpful.[/quote]

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