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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So basically you want him to do 100% of his job AND 50% of your job as well. And you seriously think this is fair and reasonable. Get over yourself already and DO YOUR JOB.[/quote]

Oh so she is suppose to work 7 days a week? While he has two days off? When does she get a break?[/quote]

Exactly.  A SAHM means that she does the work that needs to be done at home while DH is at work.  So let's say he's gone 8am-6pm every day.  Those are her working hours too, Mon-Friday.  ANYTHING that falls outside of those working hours (dinner, nighttime wakeups, illness, weekends) are SPLIT evenly between the two parents.  This is not that hard to understand.  It's called being a parent and a homeowner.

OP, I'm sorry, this sounds shitty.  My advice would be to bring it up to him in a non-charged moment.  Pick a calm time and just say you'd like to talk to him.  Explain you feel taken advantage of.  Use the cleaning up after dinner example.  Ask him how you can work together to make sure everything gets done.  He most likely has NO IDEA how much stuff you do.  Write out a list.  Show him what you spend your time doing during the day as part of your "job" and make it clear that there's stuff you guys have to split.  Hopefully he's receptive and not defensive.  If he's defensive try to keep things calm.  Try not to criticize and make it sound like a team effort.  "What can WE do together to make things run smoothly".  That kind of thing.  It might take several conversations, but the key is to STAY CALM.[/quote]

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