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[quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't want to be at someone else's house right after having a baby.  If your SIL is willing to take time off to help you, and you would like the help, that's great, but I would stay at your own house.  And telling your parents that you are going to stay with your SIL and they shouldn't plan to visit for too long is practically designed to hurt their feelings.

FWIW--my MIL (who is a nurse) stayed with us for the first few days after the baby was born.  It was great, because she cooked, did laundry, and ran errands for us.  My parents live further away, so they flew in and my mom stayed with me for three weeks.  It was awesome, because she also cooked, cleaned, and helped out a ton.  And when my husband went back to work, it was really nice to have company.  So I don't buy into the idea that it's really crucial to be alone with the baby right away, assuming that your family is the type to be helpful.  But the real upshot is that you have to do what's best for you and the baby, not bend over backwards to accomodate other people.  A little flexibility--great!  But it sounds like you are excessively deferential.  [/quote]

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