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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Generally Women look to step out of their relationship for different reasons than guys.  90% of the time it's not about sex but about feeling connected, being heard, feeling cared about.  Women rarely just act out of lust.  We are not really wired that way.

Another generalization:  women's top five things they want from their guy are:  conversation, affection, honesty, being a good provider, and reliability.  How are you doing in those?

Talk to her, find out what she needs from you.

I just think bringing up the fantasy thing will end up with more distance created between you, has the potential to be a fight, and if its real, will encourage her to be more secretive.

Approach her with acceptance and love.  Build your connection with her.  She married you.  Remind her of the positive things that you feel about her and your marriage.

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NP. You've laid out a course for OP, and in so doing, indirectly suggest that her attraction to the OM is through failings on OP's part. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on what responsibility or actions his wife should take. Because she has to have some role the maintenance and continued development of their marriage. She's not a passenger. That's why threads like this that can only present one side aren't that useful. [/quote]

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