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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Once that beautiful and lovely sacred bond has been severed OP, unfortunately it cannot be sealed back up.

It can be tied back together, perhaps stapled, glued, whatever, but those are just "quick fixes" per say. Band Aids.

The bond is broken for good and it will never ever go back to what it was before. So if you want to stay in the relationship, you will have to fully accept that you are going to live the rest of your life dealing with way less than what you deserve and much less than what you originally bargained for.

Some people can accept this, others cannot.

I for one cannot accept it, my view is that I only have one shot at life and this is it. Do or die.

I want this life to matter...to count.

I believe life is to be celebrated and not simply endured.

So I could never accept less than what I believe I am worth.[/quote]

Feel good about yourself, now? OP, you need advice from people who have been through this. Not people who imagine what they would do or feel. This is a strong sentiment, but completely hypothetical and useless. You will find lots of people who share PP's opinion here. Seek advice from those with skin in the game.[/quote]

Not the PP to whom you refer, but a victim of a cheater, so I had "skin in the game".  Must say I agree with the statement above about broken bond never fixed, restored or able to go back to what was before. .  When confronted with cheating by my spouse, I decided I wanted to be in a relationship where the other person treated me with the dignity and respect I deserved.  I also wanted to be sure to model that for my own daughter, lest she grow up thinking that she was not entitled to such respect. [/quote]

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