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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife's parents visit frequently and stay for a week at a time. It upsets our routine and I don't find them particularly interesting or warm but they are her parents and that takes precedence for me because I know having them stay with us is important for her. They also enjoy the time with their grand-kids.

She knows that I am not overly excited about the frequency of their visits but I'd never suggest they should stay in a hotel.

A relationship is sustained by giving recognition to the things that really matter to one's partner. I could put my foot down and change the pattern of their visits, making their visits less frequent or ask that they stay in a hotel ....... but it would take a toll on our relationship and that is just not worth it to me.

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I agree with this.  My in-laws have come twice, and stayed 4-6 months.  It really bothered me both times but I wouldn't suggest they not come.  I am putting up with it because I love DH and it matters to him.

4 days a month is really not a big deal.  Just don't plan your lives around their visits, keep yourself busy, and don't feel obligated to cook/clean for them. [/quote]

I would shoot myself. You are a great wife![/quote]

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