Reply to I thought we were mutually exclusive

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "I thought we were mutually exclusive"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I agree with the PP.  Until you have had an exclusivity discussion (and yes, even nowadays, you need to have one), assume the other person is still dating others.  Despite what it feels like on your end or whether or not you would do the same.

I've been in a similar situation to you, OP.  Except I was 40 and the guys were late 40s.  Yes, guys...happened to me 2x in my second go-around of dating.  Even my current BF who is by far the best guy I've dated, even he has done a couple of things that bothered me.  But I had that somewhat uncomfortable conversation with him early on.  Nothing crazy, but after we slept together one day, he said, "I don't want to do this with anyone else!"  Um, yeah, I assumed the same...but that was a light bulb moment that I was set to fall into the same situation as before.  We talked and were exclusive from then on.

More often than not, you are not on the same page unless you have explicitly made your feelings clear, and taken the time to make sure the other person understands what you are trying to convey.  In my experience, 8 weeks is not long enough for a single guy to give up all other dating options.  I wish it were not so!

When you get to a point in time where you want to be exclusive, do not assume he feels the same...but take some initiative and let him know where you stand. Not an ultimatum, but ask questions and be curious about what he wants specifically.  Do not leave gray areas.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics