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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did these same friends celebrate you becoming a new mom at your shower? I'd probably suck it up and go, while planning to leave early before the gift opening ooohs and aaaahs. If all goes well, you might find yourself staying even longer for the gift opening.

I'm a 4 year primary infertility warrior, who has been lapped and attended many baby showers over the 4 years. I can tell you that the 'thought' of attending these events has always been worse than the events themselves. The beginning of a shower is always mingling and eating; when conversations turned to kids, I just scooted over to another conversation as I didn't have any children on earth.

These girls were my friends. I don't think you mentioned it, but if it was just an acquaintance--I 'd skip it. If any of them are not for first time moms, I'd skip them, too. (Sending gifts for both scenarios, of course.)

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You are an ass.[/quote]

I don't think she's an ass. If they are close friends or close family members, she should go, especially if they supported her during her first pregnancy. Baby showers are about the mom-to-be, being with friends, and celebrating a new life on this earth. OP, I mustered up the mental capacity to decide which showers to attend and which to skip. I skipped the shower for the mom who was pregnant with her surprise 4th child because I was so tired of hearing her "and we were using two types of birth control!" and "God, what am I going to do with 4 kids. Three is bad enough!" Yeah, no celebratory feelings there. But I attended the shower of a friend who'd been trying with her husband for her second, his first baby for quite some time. Such a joyful time for them.

OP, you have the right to choose to stay home. But you are also part of a social network of friends and family who support each other. I get that it's painful, but you have the ability to assess each situation and do what you see fit. And like a PP mentioned, you have experienced the joy of pregnancy and having your first baby, so focus on those memories if you need to.

And before I get flamed, yes, I get it, btdt.

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