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[quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately expecting the doctors to take any sort of 'accountability' is almost impossible - even more so when they've made a mistake - since they protect themselves with waivers about understanding risks, quickly cover anything that could lead to liability and generally others in the profession back them up...  It stinks, it's not right, it's not fair, they are playing with the biggest decisions of your life, your health and your dreams of having a child...  But if you push it, it just leads to hostility - and in most situations they can and do end up 'dumping' patients and saying we think you'd be more satisfied/happier/whatever working with someone else... So, unless you are seriously willing to throw in the money, time, effort to go through with a lawsuit and full on PR war, I wouldn't expect any apologies or acknowledgements...  I'm really sorry you went through this -- and it's hard to then focus on what your next steps and options are right away -- assuming the goal is what are your next steps on the pathway to having a child.  You have some decisions like stick with this RE and/or figure out process of moving to another RE with your genetic materials.  Understanding the status of your embryos and the best advice for transfer etc.  Understanding the status of being able to produce additional eggs with one ovary (which are generally good) as necessary, etc.  
I did at one point in our process calmly raise with a doctor a 'mistake' he made during our process (not calling it a mistake but using language about something being compensatory for the issues caused by x/y/z) - and he waived one fee in the IVF process - but didn't give me back the time/energy/etc, lost.  It is hard to continue to trust doctors after something like this - and realizing that the science around a lot of fertility is still pretty much a guessing & adjustment game for the doctors -- the best you can do is steel and educate yourself (things like reading the actual medical journal articles on the issues and ACOG practices/procedures).      [/quote]

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