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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there's something wrong with your boyfriend.[/quote]

I have to agree with this. Any mature, rational adult would understand how inappropriate this is. This to me would be a huge red flag. [/quote]

Agree.[/quote]

This. A thousand times this. [/quote]

OP here, my boyfriend was born and raised in Europe, and he is now an American citizen. I understand what you are saying about sex, loudness, etc. around kids, especially if we aren't married yet.[b] I don't think my boyfriend is immature[/b], or that anything is wrong with him. I think he is just trying his best to be a good father to his son, and he is also trying to be a good boyfriend to me, and he is a man and he wants sex more often than we currently are able to have it, just during the every other week he doesn't have his son. [/quote]

Your boyfriend IS immature if he wants you to have sleepovers with loud sex when he has physical custody of his son, especially if you are not married.

If he were mature, he would either marry you or hold off on sleepovers until he does.  If he were mature, he would NEVER consider having sex that could be heard by a child in the home.

If he were mature, he would place his child's needs above yours, and he would learn how to quietly take care of his sex drive at appropriate times during his custodial weeks.  If/when you two are married, of course you could have sex while his child is in the house, but you should do so only quietly.

This has nothing to do with being raised in another culture, as other posters have said.  It's about maturity, and this man lacks it.[/quote]

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