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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a DH that has lived through this; MIL would live with us a couple of days a week. Would get the mail, answer the phone, not give messages,wash my underwear. Someone said it very well earlier - take a controlling personality, put them in an environment where they are bored, and you get "I'm only trying to help".
I would implore my DW to discuss with her Mom. As my DW likes to avoid confrontation and her Mom is very controlling, frankly my DW found it easier to control me.
You REALLY need to deal with this head on. Demand your spouse's support and hold them to it. It will get worse. I was young and naive. My MIL and DW really needed a come to Jesus. Instead it was I was wrong for denying my wife the help and support of her Mom. I'd turn around in the morning and she would be cleaning my bathroom. Get work calls that she wouldn't tell me about. I'm older now - it's insane. You really really need to draw s line in the sand. I should have divorced over it - and not because of MIL's behavior but rather DW's handling of it. There is nothing worse than not being able to be comfortable in one's own home.[/quote]

Yikes! You are really whipped. :( [/quote]
Married young, very sensitive to MILs status, and tried to be a good provider. When we dated discussed MIL helping with little ones. Things changed and could afford for DW to SAHM. Frankly preferred that to MIL spending more time with us. I do t know sometimes I think if I was easier going I would not have minded so much but it used to feel like such an invasion of privacy. So, thought that was providers did. But my eyes slowly opened
and I got to the point where I really don't welcome her in my home. Sometimes life is hard. The one lesson I learned is that you and your spouse need to put each other and your relationship first, above all else. If that's not the case then you really can't plan a life together can you ? But yeah it used to put my hair on fire. I have a very clear conscience that I tried to be a good guy. No angel and probably not easy to live with but I did have a generosity of soul.[/quote]

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