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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother got real mean when she sobered up.[/quote] why do you think that is, can you share?[/quote] This is a very typical pattern. Many alcoholics block most of their negative feelings of grief, rage, and pain with alcohol. (Yes, there's the paradigm of the abusive violent drunk but that's another story). Once you take the alcohol away, the feelings are still there -- and they often come bursting forth during the early years of sobriety and it's very hard for family members. This is part of why many marriages collapse. Alcoholics must learn to deal with their feelings both appropriately and constructively and without blocking. So you have this meanness spewing forth and it kind of gets directed toward anyone in sight.[/quote]
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