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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I am having an ea with someone I met several years ago.  We are in regular contact, and I believe the feelings are mutual.  Our spouses are not aware of the other, or the closeness that has developed.  Nothing physical yet.  Both of us are in okay (or poor) marriages with kids.  Absent kids, I would be gone for sure.  Her spouse appears to be a loser.  What I am struggling with is that part of me thinks that we would be great together.  Similar outlook, values, humor, etc.      [/quote]

You are keeping a relationship with another woman a secret from your wife for several years and then calling that woman's husband a loser?

LOL.  Dude you are a loser too.[/quote]

FYI, I'm not the OP. I don't think this is fair, when you don't know the details of why the marriages are poor. The unhappiness in my own marriage, the lack of emotional connection to my DH, and his unwillingness to do anything about it or talk to me was a huge factor in my emotional affair. When you are starved for affection and married to someone who refuses to talk, life is extremely lonely. It's very easy to end up getting emotionally involved with someone else. It's certainly not something I planned out. I don't consider myself a loser for wanting more than what my DH was willing to give me. I think there are a lot of people who know me that wonder why I'm still with him. If I had left DH, it wouldn't have been because of the other man. It would have been because we were already on the rocks. I'd already been thinking of leaving before I developed another attachment to someone else. If my marriage had been strong, the other attachment would never have happened.

What keeps me in the marriage is my daughter, but also the fact that DH has finally agreed to work on things.

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If you are unhappy in your marriage, then leave before drifting to another man.  As normal, the woman finds something new....THEN starts thinking about leaving.  You can fool your friends, but the rest of us know....the other man is a reason for leaving your husband.  You use all the BS of "Lack of emotional connections, unwillingness of DH, etc..." as the excuse.

And I really got a kick out of:  " If my marriage had been strong, the other attachment would never have happened".

LOL No.  If you were a strong person who truly respected your husband, that attachment would have never happened.  But you don't respect your marriage or your husband.[/quote]

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