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[quote=Anonymous]This is really tough.  I think you have to look at which decision you would regret the most 10, 20, or even 30 years from now.  If you don't have this child you most likely will not have another.  While not the same situation per say, my 2nd pregnancy was a surprise and my kids were far closer than I would have planned.  It was really tough the first few years but now 8 years later I'm happy we had the 2nd when we did.  In our case, our oldest started having issues in school in 2nd grade ....we could not have known that ahead of time. Her issues, while not severe, have a genetic link.  Despite the extra challenges, I would still have chosen to have my oldest even if I knew ahead of time the challenges we would face.  Yet, I'm also grateful for the chance to parent a child with less challenges and happy that they have found friendship and support with each other so far.

If you believe that the decision to have a second child would stand the test of time and even though the next x amount of time would be hard, let's say 5 years from now you will be happy with that decision. You have to figure out what supports you need to make this feasible.  Do you need to be closer to family, would you need to be in a place big enough to have an Au pair, would you need to live in a less expensive area etc.?[/quote]

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