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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I find it hard to believe that he's never done anything like this in 7 yrs.  Perhaps smaller incidents, ones you've forgotten/forgive, etc.  One doesn't typically turn into a controlling jerk suddenly with no prior warning.  The texting you and then refusing to discuss it?  Totally controlling and he did it because he knew he'd ruin your day and cause you to worry or stew about it.  He could easily have waited, or responded to you.  Telling you about 'smelling available' and all of that other stuff?  Definitely not OK.  The fact that he has a chronic illness is totally irrelevant here.  That's no excuse to treat you this way.  I'd definitely discuss it with him, not change your behavior in any way, and keep an eye out for the emergence of stronger (because I doubt they're new) patterns of the same.[/quote]

x2.  Or told you in the moment that it bothered him.  But honestly, that is a moment in a relationship where maturity comes in.  You might consider getting offended that your GF is going out and looking cute, but whats the alternative? Locking her up?  Making her feel like shit?  Truthfully, a healthy, mature person would not make a big deal out of this at any point, and certainly not right after you've gone to work.

I agree with the PP.  Please examine your history with him.  This is a definite red flag for me, particularly the timing of it all and refusal to discuss it further after dropping his bomb. [/quote]

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