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Something that bothers me is that nearly every guy I've been with and even ones that I haven't been with tell me how lucky someone would be with me that I'm a great catch, etc. The last guy dumped me saying I was too good for him. I don't want to be unapproachable. Maybe I scare off the non serious ones too late in the game.[/quote]

Guy here. Those are the things we say to women when breaking up - i.e., "It's not you, it's me." We don't want to be the bad guy when breaking up with you, so we say things like that.

No guy actually dumps a woman because he thinks she's "too good for him." To the extent a guy recognizes that the woman he's dating is out of his league (and for many guys that recognition is unlikely) it will simply be a point of pride for him, not something that causes him to dump her.

So:

[img]http://demotivators.despair.com/viewalldemotivators/dysfunction.jpg[/img]
("The only consistent feature of all your dysfunctional relationships is you.")

The point of that is not to blame you, but to get you to ask what is consistent about the choices you're making about guys? If the guys you're choosing aren't making the commitment, then you're choosing the wrong guys.

There are guys who are interested in getting married, and some of them are interested in marrying you. The question is whether the Venn diagram of that set and the set of guys you're interested in actually intersect. [/quote]

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