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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, maybe not a deep answer here, but do you think his lack of interest in sitting down for a family dinner is because he is maybe lazy about having to cook dinner or clean up afterwards? He may be someone who does his work at work and then comes home and wants to do nothing but veg. If so, he may think that if he's not at the table, then he is off the hook for having to assemble the meal or help clean up after it. He also might see dinner time as his "me" time where the kid is occupied and being taken care of (by you) and he can do his own thing alone in another room.

Does he help with housework? Childcare? Does he have any other built in "alone time" during the day or evening? If not he may just have decided that dinner time will be his time out. [/quote]

This is kind of what happens in my house. DS (3) wants to eat dinner as soon as he walks into the house, but I tend to get home only about 5-10 minutes before DH and DS. Not enough time for me to throw together dinner for everyone so DH sees it as "me time" while DS eats and I sit with DS. DH usually goes upstairs to change and then comes down and answers work emails at the kitchen island. Dinner involves 2 meals since I am a vegetarian who eats low carb and DH is a picky eater who is the opposite of a vegetarian. DS eats what's served, luckily. It would be so much easier if we all ate the same thing.

It is not optimal and I am actively trying to figure out ways to get us all at the table at the same time but I don't see it as DH being "checked out" since he does a lot of other child-related responsibilities. It is actually my New Years resolution to figure out a way to get us all at the table at the same time.

But if DH had made a promise to me in therapy that he'd work on sitting with the family and then didn't act on it, I'd be very disappointed. Is this the one issue or are there more?[/quote]

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