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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Outside looking in is never what it seems. People have their public face. private face and they are never the same.[/quote]

THIS. I know a couple that are super lovey dovey and the "perfect" couple on the outside (especially FB), you'd have no idea he is a habitual cheater, alcoholic, and they fight every single day. That's not always the cause, my husband and I have a great relationship both in public and private, but you really do not ever know just by looking from the outside. [/quote]

OP again....to clarify, they weren't lovey dovey at all.  I should have given examples.  One example of "quiet" respect was when the husband left the room and there was a conversation going on about how to update company wide software.  The wife was a project manager, and the husband who left the room to get drinks was a software engineer. When he came back after a minute, the wife included him back into the conversation in way that was decent and respectful as it was not his company's party.   It went something to this effect: "Hey hon, we were talking about issues surrounding the software update.  In your experience, what did you find worked best?"  Etc.  As you can see, it was not overt sentimentality, but it shows respect.  That was but one of the numerous examples that hint toward a strong foundation.

My wife would have ignored me, and no kidding, if I gave my 2 cents about a topic of my expertise, she would say something like "Ok, whatever.  You have no idea what you're talking about because you aren't there."

That scenario isn't an exaggeration.  She says those things and to and outsider it comes off as harsh and dare I say, abusive.  [/quote]

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