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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the advice on the approach. [b]I really don't want to be condescending.[/b] I have just assumed that a responsible gun owner could explain gun safety to me and how it is practiced.

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I get that. But you are failing. You are being condescending, because you do not share this interest, and probably hold some fairly strong views about it despite not really knowing all that much about it. (again--I say this because I've been there, not to beat you up. I held strong views based on limited experience, and that's no way to get the respect of people with extensive experience.)  The disrespect, the disregard, the judgment, it is all bleeding through in your interactions, no matter how much you think it is controlled. You are putting a weird energy on these interactions as a result of your lack of experience and it is obvious that it that does not match the energy they are putting on them.

Of course it is probably the case that the reason they are gun people and you aren't is because of other differences between you that manifest in other ways.  I'm not saying that  they are right and you are wrong. the gun culture is as myopic as any other. But if  you don't understand where they are coming from you can't talk to them and point it out because you will get it wrong. So what do  you want here? If you just want them to lock the guns up, well your mom forgetting is the best thing that could have happened, because as I said earlier, you are now well within your rights to insist that she shows you the locked guns on each visit. (what that will do to your relationship with your mom is another story...) Everything I'm posting, though, assumes that what you really want to do is reduce tensions and increase trust.
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