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[quote=Anonymous]I have an 8 year old who used to hit and kick me when he was mad. That has calmed down now because he had immediate and major consequences when he did it, like losing screen time for a significant period. I also talked to him about how he hurt me and showed him a big bruise he left on my breast when he kicked me once. That was a big wake up call for him. I think he really realized that he hurt mom and he never kicked or hit me again after that. He was about 7 or so when that happened. 
He did occasionally still shoulder me and give me dirty looks until recently, when in the midst of a major tantrum he called me "stupid dummy" and threw a wet paper towel he was holding at me. We didn't do much at that point because he mainly needed to calm down and go to bed. However, the next morning I talked to him about it and told him that because he had disrespected me and thrown something, he was losing iPad time for a week. That's a major blow to him because he LOVES that damn iPad. We also talked a lot about what you CAN do when you are overwhelmed with angry emotion so that he has somewhere to direct all those feelings rather than lashing out at me. 
I have noticed that he does not direct his anger at DH in the same way. DH talks a lot less than I do and is a lot more physically intimidating when he gets stern. Maybe it's a mom/female thing? [/quote]

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