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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you are kidding yourself by trying to be happy *for* somebody when you are not happy yourself. It doesn't work that way. This is what adversity does to you. It leaves you alone. You should congratulate your more fortunate relatives and be done with them. From now on your lives will move in completely different directions, and your relationship will never be the same. (Unless you conceive and give birth shortly after you SIL.)[/quote]

What horrific advice. [/quote]
It was not meant to be advice. This is what will happen this way or another. Infertility is sad and lonely business, especially at the age when friends and relatives have babies.

OP, it's awful, and you have my sympathy. But there is no way to sugar-coat reality. Since IUIs don't seem to work, have you considered IVF?[/quote]

Of course it's advice. You're suggesting that she cut off people very close to her because they are in a situation that she herself is not? So should widows not be friends with people who have husbands? Should people whose parents die young not befriend people who have parents? What a strange strange thpught process.[/quote]
Well, for what it's worth, it's rare that singles are close with couples. People want to be at ease with those around them. OP should be prepared for people to pull away some. Because having to deal with her in her unfortunate situation is trying even for those with the best intentions. It is what it is, I guess. People hate the proverbial elephants in the room, like it or not.[/quote]

I don't think it was advice, I think it was just kind thinking out loud. An afterthought. A true one most often, sadly. It's not what anyone wants but where these types of relationships naturally go. All of my girlfriends got pregnant and successfully had their babies and we just ran out of things to talk about when I was dealing with recurrent miscarriage. I didn't push them away by any stretch but you start to lose things in common. [/quote]

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