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I also wanted to give you a card to open in private. We really appreciated how you told us, and that our struggles in no way take away how happy we are for you. We just wish so badly that we were right there with you and could raise our children together. I want you to know that you do not need you two to tiptoe around the subject, but I guess I should say, that if I ever excuse myself to leave the room, It's just that I need some time to myself. 
We are so happy for you, we can't wait to be an aunt and uncle.[/quote]

Don't say this.  Look, they obviously get it because they told you in a way which you had voiced you wanted to find out.  So they will get it if you excuse yourself when people are gushing over baby things.  They will understand if you don't appear thrilled.  The more you draw attention to the fact that you're happy for them, the more it comes across as overcompensating and they will start to think maybe you really aren't ok and maybe they should back away.  If you really want to say something, keep it simple.  "I just wanted to thank you guys again with how you told us.  It meant a lot."  And then later talk about being excited about being an uncle and aunt.  Don't combine the two.  [/quote]

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