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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow - I feel like this is my DH - thanks for sharing.  It's interesting that many DHs who find negativity in a lot have some history of depression.

I was doing laundry the other day and unrolling the sleeves of DHs shirts and said, "hey hon, when you put your shirts in the wash would you mind unrolling the sleeves? " (knowing him, I tried to phrase it as simply, nicely and non-nagging as possible and this is not something I've asked before, pre-thinking how I phrase things is a huge must).  It was a huge blow-up.  We were having a fine day prior to that with no issues so it wasn't like we were already on eggshells and then that.  
Am I asking all wrong?  Interested in thoughts!  Often I just do stuff myself because it's not worth figuring out how to get some help without offending him.[/quote]

I think from his point of view it's not a big deal and he doesn't get why you want to die on that hill.  Frankly, I don't either.  Why can't you unroll his sleeves?  I went through the same thing with my DH leaving kleenex in his pockets and asking him to take them out before he put them in the wash.  I decided it took two seconds to do it myself versus this aggravation.  That's marriage.[/quote]

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