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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although I see your side, OP, having been there, and having in-laws with zero boundaries, I feel kind of bad for your MIL. She doesn't sound like a total monster. It just sounds as if she likes to talk more frankly and openly than you do, and considers pregnancy talk interesting and one of the things women bond over. She probably also considers you family, and so doesn't realize you think of her as an intrusive acquaintance who makes you uncomfortable. And she's probably genuinely curious to hear about why you disagree with her about playing make-up with the grandchild or the other things you set limits on. I don't get a sense of any boundaries being overstepped. Your way may not be any more right than hers, but from her point of view, because of age and experience, she may think she knows better or at least that there are a range of okay ways to do things.

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She's definitely not a total monster. She really means well.

And it's possible she is genuinely curious about why I don't want her putting makeup on the children.

That said, when I tell her she just goes ahead and does it anyway (last time I felt for 45 minutes, our newborn had it on), so to me, that's not respecting boundaries.

And you are right, my way may not be more right than hers- in fact, by definition it's NOT... except for the fact that they are the children of my husband and me, not hers.[/quote]

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