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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so confused. Most college student that come home go grocery shopping and replace the food they ate?[/quote]

No. Not in my world. [/quote]

I absolutely did.  I was 21 years old - an adult.  I didn't replace the food I ate at meals where we ate together, but if I finished my parents' box of Cheerios and gallon of milk, you bet your bippy I went shopping and bought them groceries while I was there.  That's just common decency of a houseguest.

OP, I totally understand why you were upset, and I think you realize that you created this monster.  It would be both unkind and unhelpful to simply tell him he can't come back.  You're his mom and it's your job to teach him how to act.  You have taught him until now that it's fine for him to treat you as a doormat and wipe his feet on you.  Teach him differently now.

"Son, you treated me and my home very badly over Thanksgiving.  I should have let you know immediately what was bothering me and that was a mistake, so I'm going to make sure you understand what I expect if you choose to come to my house over Christmas:

* You are my guest, not your friends.  If you would like to invite friends over, please ask first.  I know for sure that I don't want people at my house every night, but one or two nights might be okay.  Please ask beforehand.
* If your friends are over, please be sure you clean up after yourselves.  If you want to feed them, please buy your own party food.
* Like any good houseguest, you should chip in with chores and groceries while you are here.
* After the way you treated my car last time, please do not expect to be able to use it on this trip.

A 22 year old should be contributing to his own support, so there is no reason why he can't buy you some groceries or pay for gas if you let him borrow your car.

Good luck.  Get a backbone.  You still have some work to do raising this one, even though he should already be an adult.[/quote]

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