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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My family and my husbands family is catholic. Both my husband and I went to catholic school growing up.

When my kids were little, we did the whole catholic thing...baptized them, went to church every week, etc.

Then we somehow faded...not sure why or how, but one of my kids got really sick with a chronic illness and I think that was the start.  But since then, we haven't gone back.

Now, we are newly getting back to religion. Our little one who got sick is now almost graduating from high school, and we have been through a LOT with her.  And she has been through a lot-not only dealing with a chronic illness, but also going through an assault which was extremely traumatic.

Overall, basically my family has hit a good place where I feel like we are all healing but it feels empty. Everyone in the house has agreed that a little faith and religion would be nice.

However, we all have beliefs which fly in the face of the catholic church.  We are all heading to a very dear friend of the family's gay wedding in a month.  Many of our friends are gay, and we believe strongly that they should have the right to marriage.

I have three teens, and I want all of them to use birth control.

In the past, my entire family and my husbands family has kind of done what I think is a pretty typical catholic "thing": we went to church, called ourselves catholic, and then on the side, held our own beliefs.

Now that I am older, that is getting harder for me to do.  I feel hypocritical.

However, I like MOST of what the Catholic church means and stands for.

What do we do?? Should we "fake it"?  [/quote]

If you got through some traumatic situations w/o the help of religion, why do you need it now?

Most people turn to religion during difficult times b/c they're trying to make sense of the situation.  I don't think you fit the mold. Furthermore, if you're a firm supporter of gay marriage and birth control, you're not much of a Catholic.

- former Catholic[/quote]

What you may not understand is the good feelings (aside from beliefs and social support) that OP has gotten from the Catholic church in the past.  Those feelings could resonate more strongly than any of the negative aspects of the church.

If she can block out all her negative feelings about the church, perhaps the good feelings will come back and that will be enough for her.   What is not known, is if other members of her family will feel the same way, and if they don't, if she will urge them to go to church against their will.  After so many years of being away, the Catholic church may not be so important to them[/quote]

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