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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just a habit, if they're doing it after they know you know where they went.  Don't over-think this.

I do it myself sometimes, because people sometimes say really obnoxious conversation-stopping type things if I say the name of my school.  Really there is no solution-- some people hate to hear "in Boston", others will be nasty if you say "Harvard".  And you will be accused of "being weird" no matter which you choose.  But I find that overall, I get a better reaction from "in Boston".  I really am amazed at the nasty things people occasionally say if they hear the name of a fancy school.[/quote]

BULL F'ing SHIT. I went to Princeton undergrad and Yale law. If people ask where I went to school, I tell them. I don't place a huge amount of significance on it so nobody ever reacts weirdly. If you're getting that much negative feedback, I can promise you that it's you, not your school. I'm guessing people find you annoying and want to take you down a peg, and they would probably say the same about any school you cited. [/quote]

You sound like a really nice person.  Are you, by any chance, a man?  Perhaps you haven't noticed, but people sometimes treat well-educated men differently than well-educated women.  [/quote]

This is is f***king idiotic. I'm a woman who went to Columbia undergrad and I can tell you that the only people who are weirded out by my degree are people who already showed their inherent insecurities before they found out where I went to college. Tons of my friends, and my dates, have not batted an eye. In fact I usually get this response:

Me: (say I went to Columbia in course of conversation about funny college tales)
Date (who might have gone to a state university): Oh, what year were you? What major?
Me: [year] [major]
Date: Do you know X? I think he was in your year, definitely your major. He's a close friend of mine from high school.

That is how a normal conversation with a normal person goes when you bring up your elite college degree, regardless of whether you are a man or a woman. If you're not getting these reactions, then you are either an arrogant asshole and everyone can smell it, or you surround yourself with insecure people.[/quote]

This is how the conversation goes with MIT:

Me: I was in Boston for college.
Him: Where did you do?
Me: MIT
Him: OH wow. That's really impressive. You must be _______ (smartest person in the room, genius, etc)
Me: haha

I then try to change the subject. Those kind of statements come from all kinds of men that also have impressive backgrounds. When it gets more awkward is when they brag to all their friends about my education in front of me. One guy even dumped me saying I was too smart for him. That one hurt.[/quote]

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