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[quote=Anonymous]Your language is a little vile, but I may not go so far as to call you a wench. And you're talking about your in laws after all, so that is understandable. I can commiserate though because my own family is like this, so I know how you feel, but without the IL hatred built in.  My parents retired and moved far away to be 5 min away from my sister who had young kids at the time.  They lived here for 30 years and raised me here, and now are on the opposite coast.  I later had kids of my own who are youngish like yours, but my sister's kids are tweens now. My mom babysat for my sister or picks the kids up from school or cooks holiday meals for them or goes to their recitals, to where now she is burnt out on it because she is old now. If I suggest a vacation with them, she says "Oh sure, then I'd have to cook for you" when I would not expect her to.  I've never had the luxury of a babysitting grandparent 5 min away and rarely visit for holidays because it's too much hassle to travel that far since they don't live near an airport.  So it sucks.  All my kids get is Skype time, which I am fine with, but the grandchildren litter bias is palpable.  I think it's nurture, not nature.  It's from the geographic distance.  Still it rankles that they didn't think I'd have kids and had no problem moving away from me and it continues to be a pain because my sister does not come here to visit, so we have to go out there, with younger kids.  Also my dad rarely gets on Skype, so it's like I barely know what he looks like anymore.  So it's like my sister got their best grandparenting years, and now they are like "been there, done that" and are too old and too far away to be able to be the same kind of grandparents they were to my sister's kids. Yet, what gets me is that my sister doesn't appreciate it and is spoiled by having them nearby.[/quote]

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