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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see where some have said its not red flags and he's moving fast given his age. Even though I am 24 I am ready to settle down. Moving fast and sharing future goals are one thing. A month in an he was asking me what mind of rings I like ( engagement) and how he has " dreams of our baby we will have". Maybe it is normal but I've dated a man his age before this and he moved semi-fast but didnt act like this.

I have a good male friend I grew up with. My mom and his mom are best friends. When he came into town I planned on meeting up for a drink with him. He said it would be cheating and my friend wants to fuck me. That was a month in.

I feel some of his controlling ways are possessive and not normal.[/quote]

Wow this sounds exactly like my ex. I mean it's so similar it's frigtening. Whirlwind relationship, a little too strong too fast, wanted to move in together after 3 month, put down other people, acted one way in front of my friends and  family (charming) and then different at home with me. My ex came from a messed up family- both parents divorced 3 times and never saw his dad much. Had major abandonment issues and never got therapy. Hence I am convinced he has NPD. This guy sounds so much like mine. The thing that really jumped out at me was your last line about him saying your friend would want to "f&&k" you. My ex would not tolerate me bring friends with any guys. He was extraordinarily jealous and was obsessed  with wanting to know how many men I had slept with before him. 
Please save yourself and leave this relationship now- it will get bad. He will try to isolate you from your friends and family and become controlling and abusive. Leave now before you get too invested. All the signs are there. You are asking this for a reason- trust your gut.[/quote]

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