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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My bro, sis and I were spanked by mom and they were spanked by their dad (my step-dad).  Mom would go open hand generally, but if it was something really bad she would break out her dad's frat paddle (or a belt, hairbrush, wooden spoon).  I don't remember being spanked very many times, but my little brother and sister got spanked pretty frequently.  We also got our mouths washed out with dish soap for swearing.

I'm 31 and I grew up in CT.

My DD is only 7 months old, so DH (who was also spanked once in a while) and I haven't confronted the to-spank-or-not-to-spank dilemma yet, but when I read these threads I'm surprised that so many people have such a strong reaction to hearing that people got spanked.  Maybe it's a temperament thing, but my DH and I both come from families of three children.  All six of us were spanked at some point or another.  All six of us excelled in school, including college and grad school (where career appropriate), none of us ever got into any serious trouble, and most importantly, we all feel that we grew up in warm, safe, loving homes with parents who cared about us deeply and made huge sacrifices so that we could get to where we all are now.  I'm not saying everyone should spank, or even that spanking is good or right, but I do think it's a little dramatic to act like every kid that was spanked is a trauma victim.  [/quote]

that's why the crazy anti-spanker arguments don't hold water really. Spanking was a normal and usual form of punishment for centuries and people turned out just fine, civilization still stands, etc. It's also why they insist on equating a few backside swats with abuse: abuse has always been considered a bad thing, even back in the day, and few would argue that kids in abusive homes have struggles. But for the millions and millions of kids who were spanked as otherwise part of a loving home by loving parents, there is no trauma. So they call all of it abuse, because they must cling to their dogma at all costs. [/quote]

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