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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP I feel for your brother. Sounds like your mom went out of her way for you and not for him. Hate when parents do this as is really causes sibling problems. Your mom moved to be near you and was your nanny? Ouch..I can only imagine how that feels for your brother. I think SIL is probably sick of it all. What OP are you doing to be more proactive to them? FYI I hate when relatives who never see me or my kids send gifts it feels like they are checking a box off. No thank you.[/quote]

+1,000

Sounds like your mom played favorites & now has to reap what she sowed.  Doubt you'll see
it this way, the favored kid usually can't see it for what it is.  [/quote]

I don't see this at all.  It's a change in circumstance.  OP's mom's hours had been cut -- OP was able to pay her more than job was paying, so mom took the job with OP.  FF to brother's kids, mom has a job that pays and BIL is not.  She helps as much as she can -- taking time off, etc.  But is not quitting or losing job to help Brother.  OP never said that the Brother would pay the mom as well or better than her current job.  If he hasn't done that and is just expecting the same treatment because he helps his parents and gives them used stuff -- that's unrealistic.  Like the OP said, you can't pay bills with used furniture.

Also, if he really is feeling used, he's putting her in between a rock and hard place.  If she helps him as much as she did OP at the cost of her job -- she will need more financial help.  If she doesn't help the Brother with the kid and continues the job, he's mad because he's not getting the same treatment.  It sounds like to me me that mom is doing as much as she can considering her circumstances and Brother is expecting the same exact treatment OP got.  That's what my 5 year old twins expect.  One would think a grown man would know the difference.[/quote]

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