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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you all continue to invite whomever you want, and people can choose for themselves whether or not to attend. To skip out on the holidays with your cousin solely to indulge the bigotry of your parents is essentially condoning that bigotry, and it doesn't sound like that squares with your values system. I would see my parents on other occasions, but make the holidays about inclusion rather than exclusion. As your children get older and start asking, you give them age-appropriate answers (which usually means giving them the most basic answer that's responsive, and then seeing if they ask for more details). Eventually you'll probably have to tell them the truth about why your parents don't come to the holidays, and that will probably be a sad moment, but I also suspect they'll already have a little bit of an inkling of your parents' intolerance at that point. You'll be able to stand up as a good role model for them of tolerance and inclusion.[/quote]

THIS!!! Well said. Why try to push anyone to come who is going to be intolerant of homosexuality. Go where you want to be. They don't have to accept a gay member of the family, but they do have to accept the fact if they can't be tolerant and inclusive, their holidays are going to change.

Also, I would not make a big deal to the kids. As someone else mentioned you just say "aunt blah blah and grandma and grandpa can't make it this year." DONE. By the time they are old enough to understand your family may be more tolerant. If they are not, their loss.[/quote]

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