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[quote=Anonymous][quote]The disease itself drives them to refuse treatment, actively rail against it, or grasp at their caretakers to "fix" them. But end of the day, OP, you need to realize the ONLY person who can really help your wife, who can really make her better, is herself. She has to do the work, she has to embrace the treatment; and lots of mental health treatment feels hokey and silly (which is partly why many very smart people with depression have such a difficult time with the therapies).
 
Your job is to love her, and tell her you want to be there with her to get better, and you have to just wait and see if she will make progress. But always be mindful that you can't cure her, and to look out for the well being of your child and yourself as she tackles her demons.[/quote]

I'm the PP whose father and 2 brothers killed themselves.  This PP is correct.  You can't 'fix' her.  You can't.  You can be supportive but when it comes down to it nothing you do - or don't do - will make a difference.  She has to decide how she wants to live her life.  Yo have to accept that you can't prevent someone from killing herself if she's determined.  While you're wracked with pain and guilt for her, she doesn't feel that way about you and your DS.  She's consumed by her own pain. She's not capable of feeling what she's doing to you and your DS.

As much as I worry about you and your wife, I'm even more worried for your DS.  You say this is the 3rd time in a year she's tried to kill herself and that she's been under psychiatric care/medication.  How are you taking care of him?  Is he seeing a counselor?  You can lie to him but I guarantee he knows something is up AND living with a person who is depressed is soul crushing.  As bad as you feel, he's feeling much much worse even if you don't see it.  You can't do much to help your wife but you can do a lot for your DS - and he needs it right now.  I'm sorry to say this but he needs to be your primary focus.  There is a significantly higher risk for suicidal behavior among family members of suicide victims and attempters.

http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/articles/relationship-suicide-risk-family-history-suicide-and-psychiatric-disorders [/quote]

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