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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom can pump.  Chikd should be with bit parents. Maybe it is around work schedules. [/quote]

Have you ever had a newborn?  They need stability, not to be shuttled around every day like objects.[/quote]

Kids need two parents.  Plenty of kids get shuffled to family members or other child care options.  This is no different.  I am assuming you are mom.  [/quote]

No I am not mom.  But dad has proven to be useless when it comes to caring for the child so far, has been totally hands off, tries to engage a newborn in inappropriate ways at inappropriate times, has no idea how often to feed, how to swaddle, etc.  He can change a diaper.  That is about it.  How is going to work 8 hours a day and take care of an infant who is up every two hours all night?  Mom is on maternity leave; she is the best place for a newborn.  This is usually the case, no?  [/quote]

The mom has made her bed, it is a lumpy bed but it is the bed she made.

You can't date a loser, get pregnant, live in his house then all of a sudden go to court and expect the judge to save your sorry ass. All of a sudden he sucks?... But he was a good enough partner before, so much so you moved in with him and had his baby.

The courts are not there to fix your big fat messes.

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OP here.  I know, and I agree.  Again, I am not mom in this situation.  I just don't understand how this arrangement is in the best interests of the child.  A NEWBORN.  Of FOUR weeks.  I can see a week with mom/weekends with dad arrangement (so he can spend decent time with baby when he has him), that maybe changes once the child is old enough to go to daycare.  But at this stage, this seems like an awful arrangement for a tiny baby. [/quote]

It sounds like the issue is that he's a crappy dad.  Which is a huge problem.  However, the reality in our country is that 4 week olds do go to daycare.  If you had 2 competent parents, then splitting the day, so that he gets to be with mom every day, breastfeed so mom keeps up her supply, and sleep in the same place every night, seems like a better choice than week days/weekends.   The reality is that when the baby is older he's going to want a relationship with both parents, building it early makes sense.

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No they don't.  Most daycare centers will not accept a baby younger than 8 weeks.[/quote]

First two daycares I pulled up, both major chains that serve many kids in many locations.

Kindercare -- takes kids at 6 weeks

Minnieland -- takes kids at 3 weeks[/quote]

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