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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I WANT to say that GYNs "see everything" but I was a virgin til mid-20s (not for religious regions- although I think that would be more respected, I'm guessing) and I did get attitude. I'm about as liberal as it gets, and it floors me, this disrespect for women's choices.
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I had a similar experience at age 30. The doctor said "hey, good for you" in a weird voice. Like "I support your strange choices, oddball."  I was sort of annoyed. Hopefully, OP, you can use of the recommendations and have no problems. Good luck![/quote]

As these posters show, there ARE judgmental gyns out there. The reality is that 2014 in the U.S., you will get more judgment for being a virgin (for any reason) than for having 3 different baby daddies. It's just a commentary on where are culture is now. I mean a friend told me a story just recently about how she went for a GYN exam around age 23-24, was asked re BC and said she didn't need any because she and her boyfriend had just broken up and she was not in a relationship and not wanting to be sexually active right then; the GYN actually said -- while standing out in the hallway -- oh this is your opportunity to sleep with as many guys as possible before you settle down with one and handed her a BC script. The point is -- you cannot assume that every GYN will be supportive of conservative life choices as much as they are about the more common choices these days.

But OP -- as the posters above have said there ARE good options out there of doctors who will be respectful and will not care to mock or say something passive aggressive. I agree -- go with a woman, at least for your first time AND don't go to anyone unless you have a recommendation and/or a review that indicates that bedside manner and your comfort is REALLY important to them. While there are exceptions, if you randomly pick someone from a huge healthcare corp like Kaiser or Georgetown or whatever, you are much more likely to get some jackass who will make you feel bad about your choices and/or not believe you and just want you in and out the door in 15 min -- which matters for GYN because you want someone to be as gentle as possible your first time, not someone who just grabs any size speculum that's handy and says -- yeah you're a virgin, uh-huh.

Honestly you sound informed and realistic enough that you'll be fine no matter who the provider is. A tip -- most first timers try to hold their breath or tense as much as possible, and that just makes everything take longer. You'll probably do it anyway and they'll remind you not to, however if between exams -- like btwn the speculum and bimanual or before/after the breast exam -- you feel like you just need a min to breathe, it's fine to say that you want a quick break. [/quote]

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