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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After years of eventually being betrayed in some form or another by many close friends, sometimes best friends, I've learned that my only true friends are my mother and my DH and my brother. I'll always have good friends who I can laugh with, get career advice from or go on holiday with, but I can't trust anyone else in the world outside my family.

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OMG 10 years ago I was in your situation, OP.  I hear you.  Here is the ticket:  you may be a good friend, but you also have to know how to pick good friends.

First, don't confuse friends and acquaintances.

Second, you will never know who is a good friend as long as everything's going great.  You have to give it time.  Over time, two things will happen that will help you distinguish your true friends from your "fair weather friends."

The first is that something good will happen to you.  When this happens, look around.  Who is happy for you and who is jealous of you, and who is hanging on because you're the "it" person to be with?

The second is something bad will happen to you.  Who is there to help you, who is smirky (shadenfreude) and who has suddenly disappeared?

The interesting thing about this for me, OP, was beforehand, I thought I could predict who could fall where, but as time passed, I saw that I was not totally accurate.  This led to one very pleasant surprise, and one bummer surprise.   The good thing is that you start to figure out with whom to invest your energy.

Good luck, OP!  Good people are everywhere![/quote]

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