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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster here. In the same situation. I never offered advice or said anything in general until it became obvious he was engaging in both illegal and otherwise questionable behavior that threatened his kids' welfare.

Still didn't help.[/quote]

NP here and sorry to hear it didn't help. Can I ask how you responded? Do you still have a relationship with him?[/quote]

I spoke to a therapist about how best to approach him. I tried to do it nonjudgmentally, but how can it ever be that? I tried to get him to focus on his kids. Tried to show him it was a family pattern that was repeating generation after generation, reminding him how much it hurt when Dad did this to us. And that we need to protect the next generation  from the impacts of our family's history of abuse and neglect.

He hasn't talked to me since. He seemed to change for the better for awhile, so perhaps something I said sunk in. But he went back to his old ways. He has not spoken to me since.  I felt a moral obligation to the children to say something. He'd been such a great dad for 10 years. Then everything changed. The kids are hurt and confused. And have been in physical danger at times.  I didn't know what else to do. [/quote]

Very sorry to hear that, PP. I think you did the right thing. I hope things improve.[/quote]

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