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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see a lot of denial in this thread. Saw it coming, however.[/quote]

“It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.” - Aeschylus

There have been books written about this phenomenon, even among close, "true" friendships. The adamant denial in this thread makes me wonder if subconsciously some of the posters here have been guilty of this kind of behavior themselves, but won't admit it to themselves (because refusing to be honest when you're anonymous online suggests you wouldn't be honest with your own thoughts).

It's happened to me, it's happened to people in my family, it's happened to DH. Friends can get envious. Friends can get insecure. And we do it too. I know I've certainly been envious of my friends, I just haven't acted on that envy and sabotaged anyone. Similarly, my friends haven't actively tried to ruin my life out of envy. But do they feel the envy? YES. And yet I know we have real friendships. Friendships where I've been rushed to the ER, friendships which have seen me through heartbreaks and triumphs and milestones. Your friends are real, but if you think that we, as social creatures, don't compare ourselves to each other instinctively then you are definitely in denial. After twenty years of close friendship, you're going to be comparing yourself to your closest social group and measuring yourself against them.[/quote]

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