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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reluctant to use the word soulmate here but both of us came together in the strangest most unplanned in predictable way. Both currently in sexless- unaffectionate marriages with young kids which is what makes divorce difficult. Since meeting we've have a series of strange coincidences which are hard to ignore (like signs which I never believed in) We've connected on so many levels and it is making us question everything in our lives. Has this happened to others who have had affairs? How did it turn out. This is not just sex. We see each other almost every day and talk all the time. It just seems like we are such better matches for each other than our spouses. [/quote] Your post has several responses from people making several assumptions of facts that you have not mentioned in your post... Not all affairs are the same... Not all people are the same. Not all marriages are the same... My AP and I have tried to make our respective marriages "WORK" for several years before we even considered getting involved in an affair. We have both been in a sexless and in a affectionless marriage for over 10 years. We have both prayed for help with our marriage. We both have kids that we love. My AP and I have been seeing each other for over 2 years. My AP and I have become each other's closest friend. We talk every day... several times a day. If we have news.. we usually share it with each other before anyone else. We connect very well with each other and understand each other's strengths and weaknesses better than our respective spouses do... We are both not naïve kids. We have tried our best to examine our affair objectively.... I do not know enough about "SoulMates" to say that my AP is my "SoulMate". I just know that my AP is my best friend and she provides the constructive support that helps me be a better person. We do not hate our respective spouses because they are not bad people. They are just not the right spouse for us. We want to be with each other.. but how do you efficiently end two marriages to be together while minimizing how much everyone will be hurt. [/quote]
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