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There's a difference between insulting, inappropriate, inconsiderate comments and your brother saying that your daughters are not his favorite nieces.  Sooner or later your daughters are going to be put in a position where, either by subtle or overt circumstances, they are not the favorite of a family member, friend, teacher, boy, or whomever.  You can't protect them from that.  That is not an insult.  It's a reality.  It's life.  Teach them that they don't need to always be the favorite and you will do them a valuable lesson.

Now if your brother is actually INSULTING them -- calling them stupid, worthless, ugly -- whatever -- that's another question.  You should absolutely call him out.  But the fact that he doesn't consider them is favorite little lovey dovies is hardly a reason for you and hubby to avoid date night.  Get real.[/quote]

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I wasn't saying that the "your kids aren't my favorite" comment was insulting. I was referring to other things he's said, like calling my husband's beliefs stupid. I didn't go into detail on that, so I see why you thought I was saying "not favorite" = insult, but just wanted to clarify that bit was in reference to something else. Like I said, he's been in a angry phase for awhile now - he says a lot of things along the lines of "your opinion doesn't count" because I have XYZ experience and you don't, what you care about is stupid, everyone is an idiot - whether it's the guidance counselor at his university trying to help him graduate on time, the career resources person trying to help him craft a resume, or just me taking care of my baby in a way that has zero impact on him. [/quote]

Okay, that fleshes things out.  He sounds immature and maybe a little depressed.  [/quote]

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