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[quote=Anonymous]I do not have OP's specific problem, but I do split custody 50/50 and don't feel I have engagement from my X, so here are my thoughts.

The part of your child's day over which you have more influence is the school part; and that's the largest portion of your child's day too. I'd get on the same page as your child's teacher about what the school sees as trouble and how they redirect. I'd reinforce that and/or share what you feel might also work well with the teachers. I'd let teacher know about the custody schedule and encourage teacher to update you both on any problems that are occurring.

I'd share all this with X, as an informational update and in case it helps him, but ultimately you cannot make him reinforce.

A line I take with my DC is that "different places have different rules." We all know this: we're quiet at the library, but can be loud at the playground. At home we share food with our friends; at school, we never share food because of allergies. This is my way of helping my DC understand that X is very permissive, but that is not how it is done at home. It doesn't mean you have to get angry; you can remind about the different rules, give a calm warning, but be consistent about the behavior you want to teach in your home.

Even though this may not be as good for your child as having two parents singing the same tune, it is at least a highly realistic approach.[/quote]

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