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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TSFG, In other posts I have detailed the exploitative aspect of porn that troubles me.  [b]Aside from that, in my experience masturbating and porn increase sexual desire and frustration, which is the last thing you need if you are in a sexless marriage.  I find it easier to cope in a life completely devoid of sex in any form than one with frequent but unfulfilling solo orgasms.  But I am a woman.[/b]  Perhaps a man in a sexless marriage could not take this route.[/quote]

This is one of the most depressing things I have ever read in my life. And I am a woman. You are intentionally killing off a very important part of yourself because it's better than any alternative you can think of. I am not judging you-- I have no idea what I would do if I were you. But this makes me sad.[/quote]

Divorced guy enters debate:

I do not think that porn should be substituted for intimacy/sex in a marriage because that's really a Pandora's Box that will burst open down the line.

I have a real high sex drive, but like the other poster, staying away from all things sexual altogether is perhaps the best way to temper sexual desire, than to use porn or anything else to stimulate it. I don't equate masturbation with porn, and so masturbation is a substitute, but porn isn't. My personal view of porn is that it is so fake, unreal, and boring after the woman takes off her clothes. Anything other than the real thing will just not do for me.

My experience when I was married and not getting any, is that looking at porn in the other room while the wife slept her lazy ass off, increased the frustration and contradiction of having sex available, but can't have sex. Looking at fake sex only made me mad to say the least, but that is a personal view. I can understand if some married couples wanted to use porn to substitute intimacy/sex though, but I would prefer getting off on explicit pictures of my wife than on some fake wanna be celebrity who is playing up to the camera. If pictures/videos of my wife cannot not do it for me, then what's the point of her being in my life?!

Perhaps I am too philosophical, but that's my contribution. [/quote]

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