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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've posted on threads before about how I hate how my MIL calls my baby, "my baby".  If she were a lovely person in general and had this one and only quirk, I can't imagine that it would irk me or be worth mentioning.  I have a coworker who calls him "my baby", too, and I know she simply means affection by it.

But my MIL is truly possessive of my child, and of my husband, and must be in control of every event that we host in our home, and tries to take over my kitchen, and won't follow even the most basic requests to respect our wishes regarding boundaries.  She actively roots for the marriages of her children to fail so that she will have more time to talk to them every night.  (She loved when my DH was divorced from his first wife and called her every night for an hour.)

So, the "my baby" complaint may be manufactured and petty to you, but to me it is the cherry on a dysfunction sundae that drives me nuts.  Glad your IL's are peachy; mine are not.[/quote]

You just described my MIL. It took a massive nervous breakdown (and an ugly scene, regretfully) on my part to freak out MIL and DH. Now she mostly does not call me, she sees my child on the weekends without me but with DH (before she physically pushed me away from DC or locked herself in the room with the baby and would not let me in), and she visits our house only on holidays  or when I am traveling for business. She still talks to DH on everyday basis, sees DC regularly, and in no way is excluded from their lives. She just does not see me that often and it is wonderful for both of us. I am not being pulled into a power struggle and she believes she is the most important woman in DH's and DC's lives. 
Maybe you need to freak out yours for her to move away. [/quote]

[b]People with normal ILs have absolutely no idea, and need to think about starting their own threads[/b], instead of trying to point the finger at strangers, who are clearly here to vent (and possibly commiserate).  Highjacking others threads is not the way to do it.

Clearly if there were only one or two misunderstandings, DIL's would not see fit to complain here.  It's the MIL who doesn't know when to stop who is the problem.

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Did you even read the first post?  OP did start her own thread.   :roll: [/quote]

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