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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I completely lost it on my teen DD the other day. She has morphed from the darling girl I have known all my life into this snarky, disrespectful creature I think I barely know.  She barely, if ever talks to me.  When I ask her about her day or what she is working on her answers range from monosyllablic to a "what business is it of yours."  Three times in the last week I have found myself in screaming matches with her over seemingly small things.  She is convinced always of her rectitude and if I question what she says, she gets upset and says I do not believe her!  Usually, this has to do with some statement of "fact" she has gleaned from a teenage friend or a teacher.

Last week, she twice was screaming at me - going so far as to call me a "f**king moron."  Well, at that I completely lost it and told her to simply "f**k off."  Two other times, I have told her to "stop screaming at me."  [b]The last time I told her this, she challenged me with a "what are you going to do?" [/b] At that specfic time, I did not have an answer, but I think it is going to be things like:  a) no sleepover with friend' b) no driving lessons' and c) no driver's license.

I know I should not have blown my cool, but I simply could not take it anymore.  [/quote]

You know the only answer I could think of for this would be "nothing. I am not going to do anything to you. Screaming is a terrible way of communicating with me or anyone and doesn't accomplish anything." I guess is what I would say.

Anyway, one thing to consider, your teen is now able to express more adequately what she thinks of you as a parent.   Be brutally honest - were you really there? Or were you there for just the good parts or when you felt like it?  Also, how hands on were you before?  I resented as a teen my mom and dad who basically did the free range thing until I was a teen and then all of sudden wanted to be interested in my life and come up with boundaries[/quote]

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