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[quote=Anonymous]If your unemployment is preventing you and your wife from getting pregnant, then maybe that's why she's unhappy with you.  Wanting a baby and not being able to have one can be really hard, especially if one's partner doesn't share the urgency.  The comments about how others are doing are just her feelings leaking out in funny ways.  They indicate that you and she have a real problem and need to talk it out.  Stop shaming her for wanting to do better than just breaking even.  You guys are bickering about fish and other people because you don't want to talk real talk about your own lives.  Sit down and have a real talk with her about the baby.  Don't just shrug your shoulders and say "oh, how inopportune" if having a baby soon is really important to her.  Your failure to find a job is holding her (and you) back from some of life's greatest joys.  Of course, there is no guarantee of fertility, and time is ticking by.  Don't waste your fertile years.

Reality check: your late 20s and early 30s are prime earning years.  You are supposed to be laying your career and financial foundation.  Building up a nest egg and getting ready for all the expenses of raising children.  Not just breaking even.  I know you will say babies don't cost much, but you need to be realistic.  It will approach $2000 a month-- daycare, health insurance, and diapers just for starters.  You might have a special needs child that comes with a lot of expenses or requires one of you to not work.

You will not be 30 forever.  You need to grow up and find a job, and face up to the financial realities of life.  Even with a very modest standard of living, it takes a surprising amount of money to raise children and save for college and retirement.  Do the math, you will be amazed.[/quote]

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