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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it weren't for the fact that we didn't have a popcorn incident, I'd wonder if this were my husband posting. For me, it's that whenever I ask him for help for something around the house, he takes the laziest, most half-ass route to get himself just barely within some definition of having done what I asked him to do, but the reality is that I end up having to redo whatever I ask him to do because it's causing more problems than he solved. It's incredibly frustrating to feel like you have one more child, rather than a partner.

Sweeping popcorn off the steps and into the grass/mulch is exactly the kind of thing he would do to save himself the effort of getting a dustpan and putting the popcorn into the trash. Then I would end up out there cleaning it up properly so we didn't attract insects/rodent (or look like "those neighbors" with trash all over their lawn), and he'd wonder why I wasn't in the mood for sex that evening. The only difference is that I don't so thoroughly loathe him that I would say something like that in front of the kids.[/quote]

I don't think I'd want to help out if my partner redid everything. If you're going to bitch and do it over, what's the point in him putting effort into it? Just do it yourself if it must be done a certain way. You'll hurt your marriage by nitpicking over something unimportant. [/quote]

PP here. If my DH washes dishes, but doesn't bother doing more than a quick swipe so there's still visible food on them? Yeah, I'm going to rewash those before I put them away. Leaves the laundry in the washing machine for so long is smells strongly of mildew when it comes out of the dryer? I'm going to rewash it. I'm not re-straightening the towels after he folds them or reorganizing the canned goods after he puts the groceries away, we're talking about true cleanliness issues, and the kids and I shouldn't have to live in squalor because he can't be bothered acting like an adult and just doing it right (or at least noticing when he's not done it well and fixing the situation).[/quote]

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