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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I can commiserate a little. DH was steadily employed for many years and then his industry started to transform immensely. After one layoff, he got another job quickly--and that was clearly not working out 6 months in so he started looking but he was more or less warned that he would be laid off (or contract not renewed). He got the second job, was very excited about a new type of work and new, corporate atmosphere--and within 6 months it all went to hell. He really didn't understand what was going on, but he never really knew what he was supposed to do, there were a lot of politics, he is pretty unpolished for a corporate atmosphere-all around bad fit. He got fired, but was already on the job hunt so got a third job within weeks--however here he was warned by others not to take it since his boss was all around crazy and the job had huge turnover. But it was something pretty familiar to him, he knew he could do the job really well--and it was a nightmare and within 6 months his performance was being documented, they were setting him up for getting fired.

At this point, I really started to doubt him and get freaked out (we had baby #2 on the way--I had wanted to wait, but am older so we couldn't). But I also recognized that his many traits that annoyed me at home were probably hampering him at work: serious disorganization, inability to read nuance, accustomed to being blunt, problems listening/hearing, particularly if couched in metaphoric terms or less than really direct terms. He both got screened for adult ADHD (bingo) and got some career counseling/coaching privately.

Right before he was terminated from Job #3, and as he was taking the above steps, he applied for a new job in a new, but related field. Got the job (he does charm at the interviews)..... LOVES it, they love him, have promoted/given him raises and he's making MORE than he did in his past three jobs. More than I do, in fact, and I've been at the same place with a phD for 12 years. He's not only learned a lot about himself and his issues in the workplace, but also was just lucky to find the right fit--both in terms of the job itself and in terms of the culture of the institution. He's in his 3rd year and all is going well and he really has learned so much about how to communicate, how to evaluate his role in supporting his team, etc--none of this was at all on the radar earlier since he never had to develop these skills earlier.

anyway, i just report my story because a couple of years ago I felt as you did--loved my DH, but SO frustrated, felt like he was the common denominator, freaked out about what the turnover would mean for future jobs, etc.  It was a dark time for us both, but we got out. I wish you and your DH the best of luck. I highly recommend some form of career coaching/counseling/exeutive training, depending on his role. [/quote]

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