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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So if I am jealous/not in favor of my spouse's opposite sex BFF, what does that say about me? Insecure in my own marriage? Trust issues? General insecurity about myself?

In my heart I know I have nothing to worry about, but I just don't like it. There is always that "what if" lingering...[/quote]

I don't know what it says about you, especially since you say you know in your heart you have nothing to worry about.

I'm the woman with the 17 year-long friendship with a man. My partners, and my friend's partners, have never been bothered by our friendship. That said, we keep it appropriate, too. We occasionally (once or twice a month have an hour+ long phone call - (he's chatty lol)) but when we see each other, it is virtually always with his partner present (I'm not seeing anyone seriously right now). Sometimes I will meet up with his partner and some other girlfriends when he's not around. Are you always (or almost always) welcome/invited to join them when they get together? I can see where if you weren't invited or included that would start to raise concerns. With us, it's never been an issue. When "Joe" got together with "Jane" any time he or I suggested we get together, it was implied that Jane was welcome, unless he said he specifically wanted my help with something for her (e.g. picking out her birthday present) or I wanted to talk about something very personal to me (e.g. family issues) that I'm just not as comfortable sharing with her. [/quote]

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