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DH and I have had "best" friends of the opposite sex, at work and at different moments of our lives. DS has a girl best friend, they have known each other since they were 2, and are really like brother and sister.

Just because we love and married each other, it doesn't mean we fulfill 100% of each other's needs 100% of the time.

I don't see what the big deal is.[/quote]

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You people who insist that your husband/wife is your best friend are a bit hard to believe.    I'm deeply and profoundly in love with my wife.   I would never do anything to hurt her. But we are each our own person.  We have friendships, hobbies, and interests that are different from each other (we of course also have friendships, hobbies, and interests that coincide).   Our ability to each be a unique individual strengthens our family and our love.   [/quote]

I'm not disagreeing or agreeing with you, but being a friend with anyone -spouse or otherwise - doesn't mean you're identical. I find the term "best friend" sort of silly. My wife is an amazing friend, but I also have a other friends that run the gamut from superficial to very close. Each of these friendships is different and unique, and together, they make life more fulfilling.

To address the OP - I choose to have deeper friendships with men rather than women. I have found that I transition from platonic to having romantic thoughts too easily, so I just don't go there. But this is my specific situation. My wife had a couple of male friends, then one started a lot of overtly sexual stuff with her. Killed the friendship pretty quick. Makes it for women, that's for sure....[/quote]

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