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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you're an adult. Can't you just deal with having someone in your life who makes comments that annoy you? I don't understand how that is "toxic" especially if you don't give a crap about the issues, which you seem to be saying. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go around, even ones who judge cookie eating. How does that threaten you?[/quote]

I hear you, PP.  If it were just an occasional comment, or a benign observation that we're different, it would be easy to overlook.  What bothers me is feeling like I have to justify my decisions, regularly, just because she's so, um, "forward" about her opinions.  ;-)  If it were just her, I would probably cut her loose.  But, as I mentioned, she's part of a combo pack with someone I really like, and it would be incredibly difficult to keep one but ditch the other.

I'm grateful people suggested confronting her. I agree that there probably isn't an easier way to get the microaggressions to stop.  I'm no fan of confrontation, but if it would help me save my friendship with "friend 2", I'll try it.

And no, this isn't really about vegetables.  I didn't want to risk her recognizing the post, because that would be crummy for all involved.  :-)[/quote]

If she really is a package deal, I would just refuse to engage.  When she snarks on your food or your kids or whatever, just say, "Huh."  Don't justify your decisions to her, don't argue, just don't engage.  If she pushes it, just say, "I'm not interested in discussing that topic right now."  You know she's judgemental, so you can stop taking anything she says personally.  [/quote]

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